Men...NO PITY Women...on behalf of young men I'm sorry

As men we have power. More than we recognize. Power that is often abused and used to abuse others. A reality I find daily as I talk to more and more of the young ladies I keep running into. What happened to being a man? A good man that finds core values and belief systems. Stands up for the hard things in life and makes those hard choices because that is what a man does. Not saying Christian either. Just a man! What I am saying is that when the message your life sends is, "I like to do drugs and rape."...well...I have no pity and no forgiveness for you. In fact, be glad I'm finding inner peace because what I want to give you (obviously through the emotion of the moment) is an end.

I may not be perfect but I know how to treat a woman. And it isn't because I had perfect parents. It came from some trial and error, but a lot of common sense. Common sense is greatly lacking guys. I know that there are certain lines that no matter what she says or does my option is always that I CAN choose to walk away. I can. And it has come in handy. I've never hit a woman in my life, never done anything sexually I've regretted, and more often than not I know it comes down to the simple choice that I am in control of me. Not her. Not my friends. I control me.

So when I hear about this new generation...this group of young men between 16-30 that have decided it is okay to perpetrate one of the most destructive and vile acts, rape...well...I won't hit you. I've done that. I've pummeled and beat to a pulp and all those good things. What I will do instead is go right to the cops. Encourage these girls in taking out restraining orders and getting you out of their lives. I WILL see you put away. I don't care your age. I've been to jail...almost prison. It isn't fun. And you deserve that reality. You deserve to have your lives ruined. You deserve prison sex and probably worse. I don't give a fuck how bad your home life was. When you rape you destroy something so beautiful. You destroy a soul but you also destroy an act that when done right...oh when done right...can be an amazing piece of a healthy relationship. Take some fucking responsibility.

If you are one of the many girls I know that are facing these things there is help. I want you to have healing. I want your hearts to know that not every guy in the world will hurt you. That some can be trusted. And some will even make you happy from time to time. We aren't perfect. I know I'm not perfect for just anyone. But good love is out there. Love that tells you it is okay to let down the walls. Love that doesn't demand or take or steal what you aren't ready to give. Love that is patient, kind, giving, and so many other things. But more importantly there is help like:

Saving Grace

http://www.saving-grace.org/

5413897021 24 Hour Hotline

18665048992

Call. You are too good to not press charges. You are too good to not take control of what was taken from you. And more important you are too good for you. We are all instruments of the divine. Don't let his fucked up actions muddy that. Get help and send a message that women of the world will not take the violence of a whole slew of men that just don't fucking get it. You get that in control and it is my hope there will be joy in all your futures. And if you have kids you owe it to them too. Find heath and healing. And love... My heart breaks for you ladies and I say on behalf of men everywhere I'm sorry for the hurt you have faced. May more light lie ahead.

Peace